The Taboos of India
Marriage
If we have to name a few taboos of India, Marriage surely has made a place for itself. Unlike many of the developed countries, Marriage still remains the pivot point for the Indian culture. The epidemic called marriage claims thousands of lives every year in India. The elaborate pomp and show hides the toxic web of dowries, expectations, caste, status, money, relationships and ego feeding off of the men and women.
Getting married in India is not an easy business, it follows the same route many of the times, if not always.
1.Parents start telling their children(especially girls) that the ultimate motive of life is to get married.
2.They are fed with this bug of marriage at a very young age so that they can't think anything beyond marriage.
3.They are made to qualify in every aspect that is most in demand in the market of marriage( be it a college degree or the new hairstyle).
4.When the age comes, parents start looking for a suitable match.
5.Suitable match is also not very easily found considering the thousands of parameters that are to be considered : The person should have a strong familial background, The caste, religion, should be same, The gotras however cannot be same, the boy needs too be tall, the girl needs to be beautiful, the boy should have a job while the girl should only have a degree that can be flaunted, the boy must touch feet of the elders, the girl must cover her head, the boy must have a high income, the girl must be a virgin, the girl parents must agree with the boys parents, the boys parents must say no once to a dowry but then later accept everything with a smile.
Given above are only a few denominators that 'help' in finding the suitable match.
6. The next step is finding out that your son/daughter already has someone in their life.
7. This is followed by a horrid reaction of surprise and heartbreak that ends by breaking up the relationship which has 'spoilt' the child.
8. Now we have a set of happy parents and a brooding bride and groom who want to be with someone else.
9. The girl's parents become extremely happy and take loans to marry her off in style.
10. After the marriage, however the boy's parents start discovering faults in the same girl they had pressurized their son to marry and ask him to leave her.
11. If the girl tries to talk to her parents, they gently push her back to the same house saying that now they are not their family and she needs to adjust.
In this way the girl and boy keep suffering and accept that they have to stay together. In their empathy for each other, they find affection and thus remain happily married.
Marriage
If we have to name a few taboos of India, Marriage surely has made a place for itself. Unlike many of the developed countries, Marriage still remains the pivot point for the Indian culture. The epidemic called marriage claims thousands of lives every year in India. The elaborate pomp and show hides the toxic web of dowries, expectations, caste, status, money, relationships and ego feeding off of the men and women.
Getting married in India is not an easy business, it follows the same route many of the times, if not always.
1.Parents start telling their children(especially girls) that the ultimate motive of life is to get married.
2.They are fed with this bug of marriage at a very young age so that they can't think anything beyond marriage.
3.They are made to qualify in every aspect that is most in demand in the market of marriage( be it a college degree or the new hairstyle).
4.When the age comes, parents start looking for a suitable match.
5.Suitable match is also not very easily found considering the thousands of parameters that are to be considered : The person should have a strong familial background, The caste, religion, should be same, The gotras however cannot be same, the boy needs too be tall, the girl needs to be beautiful, the boy should have a job while the girl should only have a degree that can be flaunted, the boy must touch feet of the elders, the girl must cover her head, the boy must have a high income, the girl must be a virgin, the girl parents must agree with the boys parents, the boys parents must say no once to a dowry but then later accept everything with a smile.
Given above are only a few denominators that 'help' in finding the suitable match.
6. The next step is finding out that your son/daughter already has someone in their life.
7. This is followed by a horrid reaction of surprise and heartbreak that ends by breaking up the relationship which has 'spoilt' the child.
8. Now we have a set of happy parents and a brooding bride and groom who want to be with someone else.
9. The girl's parents become extremely happy and take loans to marry her off in style.
10. After the marriage, however the boy's parents start discovering faults in the same girl they had pressurized their son to marry and ask him to leave her.
11. If the girl tries to talk to her parents, they gently push her back to the same house saying that now they are not their family and she needs to adjust.
In this way the girl and boy keep suffering and accept that they have to stay together. In their empathy for each other, they find affection and thus remain happily married.
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